Recently a friend was stuck.
Mired in indecision.
He hated where he was, but he was afraid to move on.
He considered just toughing it out and staying put.
I advised he get going. Move on.
What earned me a grateful, “You are very wise” was when I said this:
Sometimes in life, the most certain we get is, “Not here. Not this.”
Not bad if I may say so.
Of course, I don’t want to sound arrogant.
I only realized this after years of mistakes.
For me, last time I was similarly stuck was in college.
I craved an end to high school and college was simply more of it.
I met some cool folks, but most cared only for money or drinking.
The university wasn’t the community of learning I sought.
I tried different majors, tinkered with my options.
None made me happy, only more miserable.
It was time to reconsider, but I was near a degree.
I only needed to last another year.
The problem was I couldn’t endure one more second.
Not one more instant.
So I quit.
At the time, I heard questions from others (and myself.)
What is your plan?
What are you going to do?
I had absolutely no idea.
Only one thing was certain: not this.
Definitely not this.
But then what?
I didn’t know.
Still, I quit.
Without a plan.
It remains among the best decisions I ever made.
Not because anything spectacular happened.
I didn’t start a widget company and become a zillionaire.
My rewards were better: happiness, wisdom, and confidence.
I learned never to stay where you are certain it’s not working.
Even if you’re not sure of your next step.
So what happened after I quit?
I got a job. Then I got another. And another. And so on.
Here I am today, happy and grateful.
Exactly the outline of the plan had I earned a degree.
The rest is history.
Life is full of uncertainties.
A sure thing is rare.
Take one where you find it.
Sometimes, “not this” is the most certain we get.